Boosting your mood on Blue Monday

Words by: Ross McWilliam

The third Monday in January has become known as Blue Monday, as this is what psychologists say is our nadir for being sad and pessimistic. The reason…..perhaps the expectations and excesses of Christmas, failed New Year’s resolutions, the cold days and long dark nights, being single, personal relationship changes, limited new employment opportunities, or even anything else you care to think of!

But what if we could spin all this negativity around?

 Here are my 3 top tips to turn Blue Monday into Gold Monday:

 Ignore, or better still, do not accept the negative label of Blue Monday!

Instead of accepting the perceived or received status quo that Blue Monday is something to be dreaded, why don’t you switch your thinking and actions? Why not adopt a mindset that says I am going to do everything I can to turn Blue into Gold?

 Stanford University researcher, Alia Crum, talks about how we always seem to view stress as a bad thing, when in fact, we need some stress in our lives to perform better – it’s just about getting the balance of frequency, duration and intensity right.

 The same thinking can be applied to Blue Monday. Why not positively ‘attack’ Blue Monday with a cascade of positive thoughts and actions, like a tsunami of change?

For example, this can be searching for that new job, as now is actually a great time to get a better job or even start a new career - in fact, last Monday was called Massive Monday because so many employers were and are still, offering unprecedented numbers of jobs and careers!

Alternatively, if you are reeling from the Christmas excesses, why not see Blue Monday as the start of 348 days of opportunities to start turning the tide on your health?

Develop New Year resolutions, or even ‘Maintenance Resolutions’ with Why Power

 Often, in a pique of energy, anger, frustration or even boredom, we can dream up exciting resolutions that can very quickly turn into a hassle at best, and a beastly burden, at worst. In some cases, your personal and professional credibility can even be put to the test of public scrutiny and accountability.

 According to willpower experts, Baumeister and Tierney, a key factor in achieving any resolution is not to get motivated, but rather, the secret is to unearth your Why Power.

You need to tap into your ‘Why’ rather than your will, as your will is finite. 

Why Power revolves around being logical and rational, and choosing goals which are achievable, necessary, longer term and even life enhancing or prolonging.

When you start to understand that these goals aren’t just nice, but are necessary, then your ‘Why’ motivation will kick in and stay in.

 Sure, there are going to be tough days and decisions which have to be made, but remember life is not ‘happy-clappy 24/7’.

As a human species, we are programmed to seek out the negative in all situations, and out of 6,500 daily thoughts, up to 70% of these are negative – this revolves around our pre-programmed survival mindset.

So, don’t take negative thoughts personally, just by being aware of this in itself, should give us all room for optimism!

 It may also be a smart idea to not even have any new resolutions as new resolutions can set us up to fail and therefore perpetuate a self-defeating philosophy. As an alternative, why not have Maintenance Resolutions ie just keep doing the things that have always brought you progress, success and happiness – you simply can’t fail.