Free webinar: Coming BACK confident as shit

I don’t know about you, but I am tired. The exhaustion of the past 18 months now couple with a filling calendar, face to face training, in person meetings, conferences, networking events and hybrid working is…a lot. 

In this webinar I want to help us reconnect with our FIERCE in person selves to help you stride into meetings like a badass. I’ll talk about networking, owning and room and just being all in all…confident as shit, IRL.

Confidence Tips for Work because it’s f*cking hard sometimes isn’t it

A few weeks ago my team did some important research on confidence in the workplace. The results came back and they did not suprise me but my heart did sink. Only 4% of us feel fully confident at work. 96% have experienced impostor syndrome. 53% admitted to turning down opportunities because of a lack of confidence. I couldn’t just share the report without trying to do my bit to help, so here we are.

This event is going to be jam packed full of PRACTICAL STUFF you can ACTUALLY DO to help overcome this and go absolutely smash it. <3

The event is totally free, but if you feel called to you can opt to make a donation and all proceeds will go to Stonewall to help create a world in which all LGBTQ+ people are free to be.

2021 State of the Workplace Report

Kirsty is on a mission to help everyone become their most confident selves, whatever that looks like. The State of the Workplace survey was designed to help gain an insight into confidence in the workplace in 2021.

Focusing on everything from turning down promotions to confidence levels being knocked by toxic work environments and Imposter Syndrome, our research shows that the reasons employees are feeling less confident are varied. However, these issues were in place long before the pandemic. It’s just that many of us are feeling the impact that bit more right now.

Key Findings

The study of 802 respondents gave a unique insight into confidence in the workplace. Below are the key findings included in this report.

  • Only 4% of respondents said they feel fully confident at work.
  • 53% of respondents admitted to having turned down work opportunities due to lack of confidence.
  • Support from peers (82%), practice (81%) and support from employers (74%) were cited as the most popular ways to help boost confidence.
  • 96% of people said they have experienced imposter syndrome.
  • 74% said company culture was very important when looking for a job.
  • 76% said their employer has a good company culture, but 58% said their expectation of the company culture didn’t match the reality.
  • 86% reported having worked in a toxic work environment in the past.
  • 37% said they are expected to work out of hours on a regular basis.
  • 49% feel fully supported by their employer, 46% feeling supported sometimes and 5% don’t feel supported at all.
  • 71% feel their employer has their best interests at heart.
  • 78% of people said their employer supports a good work/life balance.
  • Regular feedback (77%), external training (64%), internal training (59%) and regular catch ups (54%) were mentioned as the top ways employers could help their staff to feel more confident.

Current Perceptions

How confident do you feel at work?

Only 4% of respondents said that they feel fully confident at work. That leaves 96% of us struggling with confidence issues on a regular basis.

53% admitted that they had turned down work opportunities due to lack of confidence.

This is in line with previous studies from Roar! Training which showed that 38% are saying no to promotions because they lack confidence. In fact an earlier global study showed that 29% avoid putting themselves forward for opportunities they might enjoy or benefit from due to a lack of confidence. However, they are keen to volunteer for more opportunities at work.

What helps boost your confidence?

Keen to help find practical, actionable ways to boost confidence the April study asked people what helps them. Support from peers came up as the top choice at 82%, followed closely by practice at 81% and support from employers at 74%.

What causes you to feel unconfident?

When asked what caused them to feel unconfident, the responses were varied with some general themes coming through:

Workplace culture

A company can appear great from the outside looking in, but great culture is not cultivated overnight and rarely depends on how many ping pong tables and Friday beers you offer.

At its core a great company culture should be based on the people at the heart of it. 74% of respondents told us that company culture was very important when looking for a job.

Does your employer have a good company culture?

76% said their employer has a good company culture, however 58% said their expectation of their company’s culture doesn’t match up to their original perceptions.

To learn more we asked if people had the unfortunate experience of working in a toxic work environment in the past. 86% said they had worked at a toxic workplace.

So what about their current workplace? 37% said that they are expected to work out of hours on a regular basis. However it was promising to hear that 49% feel fully supported by their employer, with a further 46% feeling supported sometimes and only 5% not feeling supported at all.

71% feel their employer has their best interests at heart and 78% said their employer supports a good work/life balance. Work/life balance is incredibly important from a health perspective. It also has a knock on effect on happiness, confidence levels at work and how long people stay working for their employer.

What could your employer do to help you feel more confident at work?

Regular feedback (77%), external training (64%), internal training (59%) and regular catch ups (54%) are the top ways people said their employer could help them feel more confident at work.

5 Quick Ways To Combat Crisis Of Confidence 

So how can we set ourselves on the right path to become our most confident selves? Confidence coach Kirsty Hulse has compiled a list of 5 quick ways to combat a crisis of confidence.

  1. Set an ambition to become your own cheerleader. Write it down. Commit to it. We cannot develop confidence overnight, but our intention tells us we are worth a shot.
  2. Create a success spreadsheet. We often focus on what’s ahead, forgetting to reflect on how far we have come. Acknowledge and integrate your growth by consistently logging wins and reminding yourself when you need it.
  3. Ask for feedback. Sometimes, we just need reassurance. Ask those that you can trust around you. “What do you think I do well? What are my talents?” The answers will often surprise you.
  4. Stop saying stop. When we want to be more confident, we tend to say “stop being nervous, stop overthinking.” Instead, think about what you need to start for that to happen. This gives us a directive and moves us from judgement to action.”
  5. Think about who you are when you’re confident. What do you wear? How do you stand? How do you speak? How do you treat others? Have a clear, mental picture and start by trying to embody that for a few moments every day.


The results of the survey show that there is definite room for improvement to ensure that the workplace is a safe, enjoyable space where employees are encouraged and left feeling as confident as possible.

Whether external training is needed to put that framework of encouragement and support in place to boost confidence, or company culture needs to be addressed and improved, positive change is very much at the core of what we all need. 

You can download this report in full here.


Thank you to everyone that contributed to the report and for taking the time out share their experiences of confidence in the workplace in 2021. 

Get in Touch

To discover how Kirsty can help you and your colleagues become your most confident self get in touch today.

In person Presentation Training Bootcamp

Face to face events are starting to open up. Offices are opening. We’ve been behind screens and we’ve forgotten how to wear anything other than leggings.

This full day in person bootcamp will get you confidently presentation ready – it’s interactive and tailored to people who want to work on something specific and upcoming.

We’ll talk how to regulate nerves, use body language to your favour, structure your talk, improve your storytelling and get you ready to absolutely crush it.

You will leave the day feeling

  • Clear on your presentation structure
  • Confident in your ability to deliver a kick ass presentation
  • Able to regulate pre performance jitters and use them to your advantage
  • Ready to take on the world/stage/boardroom

This bootcamp is ideally suited to people who are actively working towards delivering a real event – it’s going to be interactive and working directly with your material.

How To Soften Negative Self Comparison Live Masterclass

The past few weeks in my work I have seen a significant rise in people sharing that they are struggling with feeling “lesser than” others. So often we will reach for our phones to look at what other people are doing, to convince ourselves we are not good enough. So much of our energy gets expended watching what others are doing, convincing ourselves that there’s no point in trying, we’ll never make the cut. Doing this is normal and natural, but it does not serve us.

This interactive masterclass will teach you

  • Why humans can easily default to negative self comparison and how normal it is
  • The positive intentions behind these behaviours
  • Tools and strategies that we can choose instead
  • Techniques to ensure we curate spaces of inspiration

This masterclass encourages sharing, so please be mindful I’ll invite discussion and welcome cameras on and interaction. <3



I said to my friend on the phone the other day “I am OK. I am not doing too bad. I have so much gratitude for so much but this is definitely the least I have ever enjoyed my life”.

Does that resonate? We don’t want to grumble, and we bloody well won’t. We want to crack on, do our best, school our kids and try to reconnect with a bit of joy in life. We want to laugh and play and have fun and focus on the good. 

This completely free 60 minute webinar will help us do just that.

I’ll share:

💪 Practical tools to self motivate yourself and others

💪 Ways to prioritise yourself in your own life (against all the odds)

💪 And give you a framework to feel just that tiny bit brighter everyday

The “Come the F*ck on then!” 2021 Webinar.

A motivational webinar to start your 2021 with a confident bang! (Not like that. You know what I mean).

It’s time to step into a new year, full of possibility and opportunity and the Coconut Eclair dregs of a Quality Street tin.

This webinar will inspire, motivate and give some practical techniques to move into 2021 with confidence and power. x

Oh f*ck here we go again and it’s winter now wtf emergency webinar RECORDING


Maybe you saw but a couple of weeks ago on a whim I decidied to run a webinar to help us just…oh I don’t know, feel a little less bloody miserable about this whole thing. 2020 has been draining, it’s winter, we’re getting tired, we’re ready to drink brandy and eat chocolate and sing Oh Holy Night with the lyrics “OH HOLY NIIIIIGHT, the stars are brightly SHIIIIIIning, it da duh de daaaaah when Jesus was BOOOOORRRNNNN”.

Anyway. I did the webinar. People liked it, it was very silly.

If you need a pep, you can watch the recording here:

Oh f*ck here we go again and it’s winter now wtf emergency webinar

I don’t know what we’ll cover yet, but it’ll be good. You need this. I need this.

OK. Yes. Wow.

Something about confidence and self care and motivation? Something about managing your emotional health against the odds? Something funny and uplifting? Something that will make us feel together, seen and heard?

OK. Yes. That. Let’s do that.


I got you. Existential crisis optional.